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In my opinion:
Naturally, a man is allowed to cry. If men know that they can cry, they should cry if that is what could make them feel lighter and finer. The problem was, moral society wished that men should not cry. Society believed that crying is only for girls or women. That is what we should call bu****it.

I guess women are more intelligent by twisting facts about men. Those women who are dependent of men do not wish them to cry. They do not like men to be weakened by emotion. (Quite intelligent, eh?) simply because it would be complicated to depend on a man whose emotion is like hers!

(First time i thought of it…) could that be the reason? Anyway, people who believed that men should not cry is relegating men into a higher standard or place in society. (Because men are muscular? ) since the beginning of societal patterns, men, though unconsciously slowly catapulted into a higher standard than women, thereby placing women as second class citizens. As the centuries passed by, a man’s world is considered vital in a society that keeps evolving and developing. And men lead. But, when it comes to crying, men and women are equal. They were mere followers of their species’ function in a world fit for a man and a woman, no other…
What do you guys think 🤔

So, you just had a breakup — whether it was your choice, the other person’s, or mutual. You’re now single. And ready to mingle? Or maybe not?
Some people abide by the philosophy of, “The best way to get over someone is to get under someone else.” Or to “get back in the saddle,” or whatever kind of thinly veiled metaphor they choose.

For the longest time, that’s what I’d do. Until I made a mistake that made me change my approach.
One time after a breakup, I used a close friend as a rebound. I do not recommend this. In fact, to this day, it’s something I regret and even feel ashamed of.

He was a good friend of mine, a friend I’d had for over a decade. And in a rash moment, I used him as a rebound to satisfy my own impulsive selfishness. We’re still sort of friends, but that moment will always be between us, and it’s changed the dynamic of our friendship.
It’s that moment that made me wish I’d asked myself these questions before I started dating again:

So guys,Are U Really Ready To Date Again???

Everybody wants to be a boss, but not many want to serve and support. Your spouse needs your support and encouragement, more so than your direction. Tell him he can do it! Tell her she has what it takes! Build your spouse up and cheer them on! Focus on what they are doing well and pray about their shortcomings. When the end of a play doesn't result in a score, the cheerleaders don't tell the players how bad they did, or offer a critique, instead they keep cheering, they keep encouraging. Be that type of support for your spouse. ⁣
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People change and grow when they are loved well not criticized constantly. Be your spouse's cheerleader and let God do the coaching💯✌
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Whether you realize it or not, when you go through a breakup, and your ex says “let’s be friends”, they’re negotiating your status with you.
Most people see this as a negative, thinking, “Oh God, my ex looks at me as just a friend after everything we’ve been through.”
They see it as a sort of rejection, and if you’re one of those people, I’m here to tell you that you’re looking at it the wrong way.
More often than not, when you’re constantly trying to get your ex back by pushing them into a relationship, it makes them more defensive and less likely to indulge that possibility.
Taking it slow is almost always the best option for getting your ex back.
The “let’s be friends” trick is a classic negotiation tactic where your ex lets you know that they want to stay in touch as friends.
They’re communicating that your relationship meant something to them… but not enough to be romantic anymore.
Now you might take this as a setback because you ideally want them to say, “let’s get back together,” so hearing a “let’s be friends” can be hard.
But what if you saw it as a stepping stone?
Them giving you a “no” with this gesture can open up a great conversation that allows you to work your way back to their lives in a romantic way.
Think of it like when you go to buy a new car at the dealership.
The car salesman is going to slide you an outrageous offer that’s WAY higher than what you had in mind.
What do you do next?
Say no and walk out?
Probably not…
You counter with a lower offer which they’ll counter, and then after a few times of haggling, you’ll eventually settle somewhere in the middle.
Being friends with your ex is a little like that. If you want to get out of the friend zone and be back in a relationship with your ex, you need to embrace the “No’s” your ex gives you and start seeing them what they are … opportunities.
A no is not a failure; a no can mean many things like:
So instead of taking a no at face value, you need to recognize a no for what it is… a signal to put the brakes on, a yield sign that lets you pass after slowing down as opposed to a stop sign.

with someone who chooses YOU every single day. You deserve it #
Is it real love, if you cannot tell whether your partner actually wants to be with you, or they see you as a temporary catch? And is it truly worth it, if your loved one isn’t prioritizing your needs and neglects your feelings?

The truth is no one deserves a vague ‘maybe’ kind of love.
You are not born to be someone’s second choice. If you and your partner aren’t crazy about each other, and you’re not at all sure of your feelings about one another, getting involved in a relationship could be utterly catastrophic. Not only you’re wasting your time, but you’re also blocking the way of true love.
Being romantically involved with someone whose intentions are unclear could be emotionally damaging. Even though in the early stages of dating everything feels like a dream, it often takes a while to see someone’s true colors. Unfortunately, many people are making it extremely hard to tell whether they ate being authentic, or too darn good at playing with your feelings.
However, there are signs that can help you recognize someone’s actual intentions towards you and your relationship. For instance, if you’re unsure whether your partner wants to be by your side in the long run, try to find out how they feel about real commitment. If they send you a trivial ‘wyd’ text at 3 a.m. and the next day they don’t return your calls, if they avoid meeting your family, although you’ve been together for a while now, or if you’re always the one who has to text or call, so you can actually see each other, they might not be as devoted to your relationship as you are.
Sure, they may say the sweetest things when you’re together, and they may have an unreal charm, but this doesn’t mean they are allowed to treat you as an option.

’t Lose Sight Of Who You Are #

Sometimes when someone is in a relationship, they tend to lose their own identity just to please the person they love. Although it could make a relationship work at first, it could eventually ruin them in the long run. Why?
Losing sight of who you are means changing and adjusting your own needs – even sacrificing your personal happiness just to be a perfect partner. Learn to love yourself and the right person will accept you nonetheless.
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The truth is, nobody can make you feel anything.
It is up to you to accept responsibility for how you feel. This is an important part in owning your personal power.
I figured out that nearly everybody has given someone else power over the way they feel, think or behave at some stage in their lives.
Now one of the most effective ways to retain your personal power is to accept responsibility for how you feel.
“Don’t let other people’s behavior dictate your emotions (and) instead, accept that it is up to you to manage your emotions, regardless of how others behave.”
Not only are you giving away your own personal power when you outsource your happiness, you are also setting expectations of your partner that are unrealistic, and that will put a lot of unnecessary pressure on your relationship.

Now repeat after me:

“I am in control of my own happiness” and “My partner is in control of their own happiness.”

Now this is it,If you happen to be an empathetic lady, you would likely have difficulty in finding love in your life. Of course, it might seem counterintuitive. However, if you think about it, it makes a lot of sense. Just because you are highly sensitive towards the feelings of others doesn’t mean that they’re going to be the same to you. Often, the opposite is exact. A lot of people can grow intimidated by the kind of empathy that you have. You are such a rarity that not most people would know exactly how to deal with someone like you.
You love with all of your heart. And as an empath, you would also desire to be enjoyed in the same manner in return. That’s only fair. However, not a lot of people are going to be able to love you the way that you love them. And that’s where the real conflict lies. You are someone who is always in search of sincere and robust relationships. But those can be hard to come by. Men aren’t still going to be so open or receptive to people like you.

are a few reasons as to why that’s the case: #
1. You can get intense.
2. You have difficulty letting your guard down.
3. You are available to so many people.
4. You require immediate stability.
5. You are so good at seeing through peoples’ lies.
6. You know precisely what you want.
7. You are so interested and curious.
8. You are very independent.
9. You say what’s on your mind.

or Not??

We have all been guilty of going overboard to prove ourselves to one man or another for all the wrong reasons, at least once in our lives. But make no mistake, the most disastrous reason for trying too hard to please someone is because you are lonely, think there is something wrong with being ‘single’ for a time, or because you are hungry for attention. Some well-meaning women are simply confused, having bought into the notion that she is somehow required to do back flips to maintain his interest.
On a positive note, anyone can overcome this habit of compromising themselves for the sake of a relationship. We do this by understanding that any desperate method for trying to keep his attention always fails. But, it is never too late to change course and, figuratively speaking, turn that ship around!
There is a time and a place for trying hard to impress. Take sports, for example. If you want to make the team, you had better impress the coaches. In an interview, you must prove to the boss that you can do the job by communicating your skills and expertise. However, in romantic relationships, it is a much different matter. When a woman meets a man she really likes, she has to take a decisive step back and stop herself from frantically trying to impress him or somehow 'keep him.'

If you cannot answer at this very second,this might be a sign that what you have with your partner is far from authentic.

The difference between real and toxic love is tremendous. While true love is based on trust and honesty, toxic love is filled with disloyalty and deception. True love makes you and your partner grow together, inspire one another, and unconditionally support each other. On the contrary, toxic love crushes your spirit, makes you doubt yourself, and even halts your personal growth.
When you are truly loved, you will feel motivated to constantly improve yourself, chase your goals, and fulfill your dreams. Your partner will be there on every step of your journey. They will hold your hand through every storm and will be genuinely happy for you through every success. They will treat you with compassion, care, empathy, and appreciation. What’s more, they will accept you just as you are.
On the other hand, if someone is only fooling you into believing they love you, there will be no sign of support. However, there will definitely be signs of control, manipulation, mental exhaustion, and misery. You will constantly feel as if you were worthless. Your partner will treat you with ignorance, apathy, and even hatred at times. They will make you feel as if you’re never enough. Everything you do or say will be useless and irrelevant.
So, which kind of love do you and your significant other have? Does your partner help you grow, or do they crush your dreams? Do they make you feel protected, appreciated, and accepted, or do they simply ignore your feelings? These are questions you need to answer yourself in order to determine whether the love you have is genuine or deceiving.

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Need A Partner Who Is Also Your Best Friend. Don’t Settle For Less #

Love is beauty. Love is wonder. Love is freedom. Love is fun.

what is the point of a relationship when you cannot have fun, and share a good laugh with your partner?

Love is the most priceless feelings in the world. If you want true love, then you should have a partner you can also call your best friend, because that is the best kind of love.
The one who is right for you will stay by your side regardless of your flaws and even love you for them. They will always treat you as the most precious person in the world because to them that’s exactly what you are.
Our imperfections are what make us unique. They are an intrinsic part of us. You need a person who loves you despite all of your flaws and is happy with you just the way you are.
When someone doesn’t appreciate you when you are at your lowest point, they certainly don’t deserve you when you’re at your highest.
yourself the following questions:
Where were they when you felt hopeless? When you were crying your soul out? Where were they when you were feeling all along? Where were they when your world was breaking into pieces?
Where were they when you needed guidance and support?

Life isn’t always roses and wine. It can be harsh and painful. And unfortunately, that is not something we can change