John Chukwudi

12 Secrets about marriage you MUST KNOW Before you go in.

Secret Seven

Even happy couples argue. I mean, very happy, everything-going-on-well couple argue about little things here and there. No matter how neatly compatible you think you are, you will always have traces of differences in many areas of your marriage. Don't assume you are not being loved by your spouse when those moments of arguments come. Don't think some demons have found their way into your home when you start arguing about little things like who forgot to flush the loo. These little arguments are bound to happen, prepare to have these intense conversations. The goal of every couple however is to make sure that those differences don't become irreconcilable.

Secret Eight.

You will lose the joy in your home quickly when you focus on your partner's weaknesses more than you celebrate and appreciate their strengths. The earlier you know that your spouse will not be able to satisfy you in all areas the better it will be for you to make room for his or her inadequacies. This is one ingredient many married couples lack, they haven't made accommodations within themselves to cover for those things their partner cannot do, and those areas where their partner come short. Making room comes with making sacrifices, this is the hardest part.

Secret Nine

You cannot have it all Sir, Ma. Marriage will school you on the act of letting go. Some of your hobbies, some of your dreams, some of your personal longings, you will learn to let some of this things go brethren, especially the things that do not directly add or take away from your marriage. That friendship, that business, that denomination, that age group, night out with your favourite clique, gradual detachment from your family. You cannot have it all.

Secret Ten

Your partner will go through many changes at different seasons of their life; childbirth, job changes, business rebuilding, etc. In marriage you have to make a consistent decision to stay attracted to your spouse if you want that marriage to last.

Secret Eleven

Please keep having s*x. In marriage the temptation to be very busy with other responsibilities can be really high, but ensure you prioritize your s*xdevotion in marriage. Alot of people say a couple shouldn't have a time table for s*x, that s*x should be done at random. I say that is not entirely applicable to very home please, let's not enforce ten commandments in the bedroom. Create a timetable for it if you both know your marriage needs it, set alarms with date reminders if that can help. The moment you disconnect from each other intimately your marriage begins to go south.

Secret Twelve

You can try, but the success of your marriage depends on your relationship with God. Any couple who do not make God the centre of their marriage will always experience crisis beyond their control. Make praying together a necessity, like the air you breath. Set spiritual goals for your marriage by seasons, and chase them together. The realms you enter as a couple depends on your push. The Holy Spirit will stop with you where you stop with Him.

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