09/28/2026
I am currently in the midst of a series of posts where I discuss a little more about who I am and the experiences in my life that have led me to run for Judge. The previous three weeks I have discussed my education/clerking experience, my law practice in Carroll County, and my Guardian ad Litem work. This week I’ll be discussing the experience that has had the biggest impact on my life—becoming a mother.
Becoming a parent has changed everything about me. My perspective, my priorities, and my outlook on life. It has made me more patient, more compassionate, more efficient, more driven. It has taught me countless lessons. It has created in me a deep desire to do what I can to change this world for the better so that my child grows up in a world better than the one I did.
Before you become a parent you think “when I’m a parent, I’ll do X” or “when I’m a parent I’ll never let my kid do Y” and then you become a parent and you are humbled. You realize that your child is uniquely herself and that everything you thought you were going to do goes right out the window because you’re not parenting a robot, but rather a child who is born with his or her unique personality. And you find that your child isn’t about to adapt his or her personality to your preferred parenting style, but rather you have to adapt your parenting style to the child you have.
These lessons I’ve learned as a parent I believe will serve me well as Judge. This week-on/week-off parenting schedule might work really well for child A, but it doesn’t work at all for child B. This term of probation might serve as a great deterrent for child Y, but as no effect on child Z. Understanding children, child development, and what is typical versus atypical for a child is vital in a Judge who oversees the Juvenile Court.
I think most parents can relate to the notion that the news became harder to stomach, especially news stories about children being harmed, when you become a parent. I think, as a parent, when you hear a news story involving a child, you can’t help but picture the harm occurring to your own child. I have had people ask me why, especially as a parent, I would want to be a Judge in this Court when this Court, at times, deals with horrific cases where children were harmed. But I want to help protect children. I want to hold people who harm children accountable for their actions.
Becoming a mom has only solidified for me that we need judges, particularly judges in juvenile court, who know children. Judges who understand the complexities of parenting, who understand child development, who understand that a one-size-fits-all approach does not work with children, and who are driven to make a positive impact and leave this world better than they found it.
Vote Stoneman November 3.