10/10/2026
“Why don’t they just leave?”
It’s a question we hear when talking about domestic and intimate partner violence. But leaving an abusive relationship is rarely as simple as walking out the door.
There may be concerns about safety, housing, finances, children, transportation, pets, isolation, or retaliation. An abusive partner may also have spent months or years creating fear, dependence, and control.
Instead of asking, “Why don’t they just leave?” try asking, “How can I support them?”
If someone you know tells you they’re experiencing abuse:
💜 **Listen.** Give them space to share without judgment.
💜 **Believe them.** You don't need to know every detail to take what they're telling you seriously.
💜 **Thank them for telling you.** It can take tremendous courage to reach out.
💜 **Remind them it isn't their fault.** The responsibility for abuse belongs to the person choosing to use it.
💜 **Respect their choices.** You may want to tell them what you think they should do, but they know their situation best.
💜 **Offer support.** Ask, “What would feel helpful right now?” You can also help connect them with resources when they're ready.
You don't have to have all the answers. Sometimes, simply being someone who listens, believes, and stays supportive can make a meaningful difference.**
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic or intimate partner violence, Project Hope is here. Our services are free and confidential, and our 24/7 crisis line is available at **970-641-2712.**
Support doesn't mean taking control. It means standing beside someone as they navigate their own path. 💜
