SATX Queer Deathcare Collective

Thank you to everyone who came to our March SATX Deathcare Collective meeting and to those who joined us online! We had an incredibly fun time chatting about death, our experiences with death and grief, and how advanced directive documentation can truly help us maintain some of our autonomy and dignity in death.

Thank you again to the for hosting our community meeting! We look forward to future planning and collaboration with you! ❤️🧡💛💚💙

For our April meeting, we are planning a complete workshop to review documentation like having a medical power of attorney, DNR order, living will, etc. Sometimes, completing these documents alone can feel overwhelming and complex, so we envision a community workshop in April where we can come together, complete these documents, answer any questions, and clear up any misunderstandings with advanced directives.

Look out for our April announcement, links for advanced directives, and a sign up sheet for our next get-together! Feel free to invite friends! This space is for everyone and anyone interested in discussing death, dying, and grief! Truly bringing deathcare back to a community collective endeavor! ❤️‍🔥✨️🔥🌿

Quick reminder, loves — our SATX Q***r Deathcare March meeting is tomorrow! 🕯️🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈

Both in-person and online!

🗓️ Tomorrow (Fri, March 27)
🕔 5:00–7:00 PM CT
📍 San Antonio Pride Center
1303 McCullough Ave, Suite 160 (street parking available)
💻 Hybrid option: Zoom is available too!

We’ll be sharing/talking through our Deathcare Care Maps and hosting our first Q***r & Trans Deathcare Literacy Workshop focused on important documentation.

Zoom info is in the QR code and below. 💛

Zoom Information:
Meeting ID: 573 552 4873
Passcode: 80478344

Over the last 8 weeks, I’ve had the deep honor of learning with ABODE, now my fourth death doula training program, and without question one of the most hands-on, heart-opening, and transformative trainings I’ve had the privilege to experience. As we enter our final week next week, I’m finding myself full of gratitude for all that this journey has offered. We’ve been held by powerful speakers and teachings on grief, hospice care, vigil sitting, legacy work, and the sacred, tender realities of accompanying people at the end of life. Today, we had the profound opportunity to visit a green natural burial site and learn about the beautiful process of returning the body to the earth in the most natural way, through shrouding, burial, and a deeper understanding of death as part of the cycle of life. This experience moved me deeply. I will be leaving this training carrying not only new knowledge and skills, but an even stronger commitment to bringing these resources, conversations, and practices back into our communities. I look forward to continuing to expand deathcare and death literacy, and to creating more spaces where care, dignity, and honest conversation around death can live and grow. ✨️🕯🌿🔥💦🪶💕

February check-in, SATX 🕯️💀🌼 We’re building SATX Q***r Deathcare Collective together: community agreements, future meeting spaces, meeting style (Zoom/in-person/hybrid), and voting on our February topic.

Please take a few minutes to fill out our short survey + add your ideas:
https://forms.gle/kGwGBa6JsfwiMTjC7

Comment below too if you prefer, your voice helps shape our Collective future. 🖤

Tonight’s the night! 🕯️💀✨ SATX Q***r Deathcare Collective is meeting for the very first time on Zoom at 7:00 PM CT — come introduce yourself, share ideas, and help shape what this collective becomes.

Join Zoom:
https://utsa.zoom.us/j/5735524873?pwd=Z0VndWkwSmRlRURLWVdoZmxCRm80UT09
Meeting ID: 573 552 4873
Passcode: 80478344

If you can’t access the link from this post, DM me and I’ll send you the direct link. See you tonight! 🖤

Reminder: SATX Q***r Deathcare Collective first Zoom gathering is Wednesday, Jan 21 at 7:00 PM CT 🕯️💀✨
Come co-create the collective + share ideas — Zoom link in bio / DM me for details. Follow & Share! Thank you all for your continued support and collaboration in building the first Q***r Deathcare Collective here in San Antonio, TX!

🕯️ SATX Q***r Deathcare Collective — First Gathering (Zoom) 🕯️
San Antoniooooo, we’re doing this. 💀✨🌼
Join us for our very first SATX Q***r Deathcare Collective meeting—online for January only—so we can gather, dream, and build together.

What to expect:
🌙 Quick introductions (say as much or as little as you want)
🧠 Co-creating what we want this collective to be
💬 Open conversation: what does our community need from deathcare + death literacy?
🏠 Brainstorming in-person community spaces to meet moving forward
✨ Ideas, topics, and offerings for future gatherings

Future topics we can explore together:
🖤 Grief circles + community mourning
🕯️ Becoming a death doula / what death doulas do
🌼 Honoring the dead through altar building + ritual
📜 Preparing for your own death (planning, paperwork, preferences)
⚖️ Legal conversations for q***r & trans folks (names, chosen family, rights)
…and whatever our community brings in.

📅 Date: Wednesday, January 21, 2026
🕖 Time: 7:00 PM Central
📍 Place: Online (Zoom)
🔗 Join Zoom Meeting:
https://utsa.zoom.us/j/5735524873?pwd=Z0VndWkwSmRlRURLWVdoZmxCRm80UT09
Meeting ID: 573 552 4873
Passcode: 80478344

Bring a cup of cafecito/tea, a candle if you want, and your curiosity.
Let’s build something tender, powerful, and community-held. 🕯️🖤

Follow us on:
Facebook: SATX Q***r Deathcare Collective
https://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=61585613452078

Instagram: ***rdeathcarecollective

Hi everyone! I’m Jerry Romero Jr., founder of the SATX Q***r Deathcare Collective. I’m a San Antonio native and a former secondary educator (I taught for 8 years) who has always been drawn to the places where care, language, and community meet—especially when people are navigating the hardest chapters of life.

I’m also a doctoral student at UTSA, and my academic work centers on q***r/trans lives, institutional power, and the ways systems shape whose bodies and stories are protected, believed, and held with dignity. That lens deeply informs why I’m starting this collective: our communities deserve deathcare that is culturally grounded, affirming, and not steeped in shame or silence.

Alongside my doctoral work, I’ve pursued training in end-of-life care, including the University of Vermont End-of-Life Doula certification and a Pediatric End-of-Life Doula Specialist Certificate. I’m currently a student in the School of Sacred Death (La Mort), and starting in January I’ll be participating in a hands-on death doula program here in San Antonio with ABODE End-of-Life Care Homes.

I’m creating this space because I want q***r, trans, and BIPOC folks in San Antonio to have a place to learn and talk openly about death and grief, how to plan, how to advocate, how to support loved ones, and how to care for ourselves through it all. I’m here to answer questions, share resources, and build death literacy with my community.

Really glad you’re here. 🕯️

Welcome to SATX Q***R DEATHCARE COLLECTIVE
Q***r • Trans • BIPOC-centered death literacy + community care

We’re building a San Antonio community space to talk about death, grief, dying, and aftercare—without shame, without fear, and without having to translate ourselves.

What we’re here for:

Death Literacy: end-of-life planning, navigating systems, talking about what’s hard

Community Circles: grief, caregiving, anticipatory grief, memorial + ritual support

Doula-informed Support (community-based): companionship, resources, advocacy, referrals

Mutual Aid + Care Networks: sharing tools, building safety, supporting one another

Monthly Meetings — San Antonio (in-person & Zoom)
First gathering: January 2026
More details + location dropping soon.

We’re currently gathering ideas + co-creators.
What do you want this to include?
Topics, speakers, skills shares, rituals, resource needs, accessibility requests—tell us.

Interested in joining, collaborating, or helping build this?
Follow us here on Facebook and Instagram!
IG: ***rdeathcarecollective