23/08/2026
Have you ever been in a relationship where you've asked for the same thing more than once?
You've explained what you need, you've tried to be patient, you've given the other person time, and you've perhaps even convinced yourself that your needs aren't really that important.
Eventually, though, you reach a point where you realise that continuing to accept the same situation is costing you too much, so you make a difficult decision. You say no, you step back, you set a boundary, and then the other person pulls away.
Suddenly, the certainty you felt when you made the decision can start to disappear. You might find yourself wondering whether you were too harsh, whether you should have given them another chance, whether you have hurt them unnecessarily, or whether you should reach out and try to repair things.
Their withdrawal can feel like evidence that you've done something wrong, even though the reason you set the boundary in the first place hasn't changed....
Read the full blog post at https://www.peachmentalhealth.com.au/post/why-boundaries-can-make-us-feel-worse-before-they-make-us-feel-better