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Save yourself the trouble and skip the New Year’s resolutions:

The new year is notoriously a time people want to make change and decide to “turn over a new leaf.” But really? How does that work out most years?

I think instead of buying into the sexy hype of New Year’s resolutions- it’s better to always be working on things incrementally- not in one fell swoop. It’s ok, even great, to have a vision about something you want to change or tweak or improve or do more or less of, but change is about practice. “Permanence,” as it were, comes from practice and its very close ally habit - essentially.
So resolutions - without attention to the process - set people up for failure. As Jeff Olsen says in The Slight Edge - if change were a question of intelligence we’d all be skinny and rich. But we aren’t.
A resolution for a new year is to not have them but rather to see the change we desire as a longer and more daily practice. He calls them “daily disciplines.” And, to that point, James Clear, in Atomic Habits similarly prizes the systems (i.e., daily habits,)that yield change over the “goal.” A word, incidentally, I do not love.

So this January - if you’re inclined to make a long list of resolutions - save yourself the “do the same thing, get the same results” routine and start thinking about small, little, seemingly insignificant practices and processes that might get you to a different place.

( just a note: this is also true for the negative and destructive ways we habitually speak to, about, and with ourselves. In other words, it isn’t just overt habits or physical behaviours that require our daily attention and that could use some transformation;)

Happy New Year - filled with positive and productive practices xo

Sometimes shadows are just darker parts of beautiful light

What immeasurable beauty, grace, and balance there is nature. Perhaps lessons for each of us to look inward and connect with our own iterations thereof.

Can’t even believe I caught this shot. They couldn’t have posed better for me. An unspeakable gift to behold. Deep love & appreciation for walks in my my park and learning from nature.

Join us for a light, insightful, fun, growth oriented workshop. A few spots still open. Connect to register.

Join us for this wonderful, light, fun, and growth oriented workshop!! A few spots open. More info. Link in bio

Spring is a time of renewal and rebirth.

Please join me to explore those concepts through gratitude and growth in a six week online program. There is no time like Spring to do some good mental health refreshing and to practice being in the moment and in the moment of gratitude specifically :)

The experience will be light, fun, grounding, and energizing. Space is limited so be sure to reserve a spot if this seems up your alley. Any questions - please feel free to be in touch.

Much love and good mental health vibrations,
Marjorie

Perspective is everything: There is beauty from the bottom ❤️ Attending to your own perspective opens up endless positive possibilities. I hope you feel yours.

This tulip has laid it all out. Has exposed itself in allllll its immeasurable beauty. Has opened itself entirely. Vulnerability is a strength. Being exposed reveals inner beauty otherwise not seen. Inspiring thoughts from flowers. Thank you tulip!!

Sending best mental health, love-yourself and be-yourself vibrations out there.

I thought this flower had given me everything and then I awakened to it splayed out in its own beautiful glory. It made me think “open to possibilities.” What’s your source inspiration and beauty today? Sending out wishes for in-the-moment experiences of peace and joy and good mental health vibrations to everyone 🤍