Ian Onyiego

BE PATIENT
By Kyagulanyi Barbie Itungo.

Looking at the scorching sun this morning reminds me of the drought in my husband's pocket 14 years ago.

One february,we were too broke to afford breakfast or even taxi fares from kanyanya to kamwokya. To get a meal, we had to open up an account of sorts at a restaurant in Kamwokya. The owner is such a good mutooro man. He let us eat any day anytime and my husband paid after several weeks whenever he got money.
We walked from our muzigo in kanyanya,through Bahai temple,Kyebando and down to Kamwokya everyday.

I am from a well to do family but I chose not to cry to my relatives. During this time me and my husband had dreams and aspirations. He dreams big you know. As we walked through the dust and jumped those dirty myala everyday,we talked. Infact we always found ourselves in kamwokya somehow.

He told me of how he was going to be rich. How his music would never disappear from the surface of this earth. He told me that he would build an empire and his name would never be forgotten.

The story is long..
I later realised that such times were meant to prepare us for a later stage when we had a lot to eat and a car to drive. See,when you are waiting on God to take you to another level, you have to learn to be content. Content with what you are/have at the moment. God is letting you go through such times to prepare you for when you reach that goal you are working so hard to achieve. You know,if you have not gone through the training of being happy and content with little,you will never be happy with a lot. Even if you achieve your dreams,you will be excited for a short while and then your spirit will start yearning for something bigger.

Be happy with the little you have as you dream big. Be patient in times of drought so that when it rains you will appreciate it more.

Me and my husband have learnt to appreciate each season. We are happy when we have a lot and when things seem to be tough. We have the ability to truly enjoy the hard times because we know we are being prepared for when things are better. Don't sit and feel sorry for yourself whenever things are difficult.

As you put your trust and energy in a better tomorrow don't forget that the challenges you are facing today will be your fall back strength in future.
Pray, believe, trust and BE PATIENT.
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EVERY WOMAN SHOULD READ THESE 30 RULES FOR GODLY WOMEN.

1). Never raise your voice for any reason to your husband. Its a sign of disrespect.(Prov 15v1)
2). Don't expose your husband's weaknesses toyour family and friends. It will bounce back at you.You are each other's keeper.(Eph 5v12)
3). Never use attitudes and moods to communicate to your husband, you never know how your husband will interpret them. Defensive women don't have a happy home.(Prov 15v13)
4). Never compare your husband to other men, you've no idea what their life is all about. If you attack his Ego, his Love for you will diminish.
5). Never ill treat your husband's friends because you don't like them, the person who's supposed to get rid of them is your husband.(Prov 11v22)
6). Never forget that your husband married you, not your maid or anyone else. Do your duties.(Gen 2v24)
7). Never assign anyone to give attention to your husband, people may do everything else but your husband is your own responsibility.(Eph 5v33)
Never blame your husband if he comes back home empty handed. Rather encourage him.(Deut 3v28)
9). Never be a wasteful wife, your husband's sweat is too precious to be wasted.
10). Never pretend to be sick for the purpose of denying your husband s*x. You must give it to him how he wants it. S*x is very important to Men, if you keep denying him, it is a matter of time before another woman takes over theat duty. No man can withstand s*x starvation for too long(even the anointed ones) (SS 7v12)
11). Never compare your husband to your one time s*x mate in bedroom, or an Ex-lover. Your home may Never recover from it if you do.(SS 5v9)
12). Never answer for your husband in public opinion polls, let him handle what is directed to him although he may answer for you in public opinion polls.(Prov 31v23)
13). Never shout or challenge your husband in front of children. Wise Women don't do that.(Eph 4v31)
14). Don't forget to check the smartness of your husband before he checks out.(Prov 12v4)
15). Never allow your friends to be too close to your husband.
16). Never be in a hurry in the bathroom and on the dressing table. Out there your husband is always surrounded by women who took their time on their looks.( 1 Sam25v3)
17). Your parents or family or friends do not have the final say in your marriage. Don't waste your time looking up to them for a final word. You must Leave if you want to Cleave.(Luke 21v16)
18). Never base your love on monetary things. Will you still submit to him even if you earn more money than him?
19). Don't forget that husbands want attention and good listeners, never be too busy for him. Good communication is the bed rock of every happy home. (Gal 6v9)
20). If your idea worked better than his, never compare yourself to him. Its always teamwork.(Gal 6v10)
21). Don't be too judgemental to your husband. No man wants a Nagging wife.(Eph 4v29)
22). A lazy wife is a careless wife. She doesn't even know that her body needs a bath.(Prov 24v27)(Prov 20v13)
23). Does your husband like a kind of cooked food?, try to change your cooking. No man jokes with food. (Prov 31v14)
24). Never be too demanding to your husband,enjoy every moment, resource as it comes.(Luke 11v3)
25). Make a glass of water the very first welcome to your husband and everyone entering your home. Sweetness of attitude is true beauty. (Prov 31v11)
26). Don't associate with women who have a wrong mental attitude about marriage.(Prov 22v14)
27). Your marriage is as valuable to you as the value that you give it. Recklessness is unacceptable.(Heb 13v4)
28). Fruit of the womb is a blessing from the Lord, love your children and teach them well.(Prov 22v6)
29). You are never too old to influence your home. Never reduce your care for your family for any reason. (Prov 31v28)
30). A prayerful wife is a better equipped wife, pray always for your husband and family(1 Thess 5v17).

A TRUE STORY!

A girl was living with her uncle becoz her parents died of HIV she was the only child from her mother's womb, she was educated by her uncle from nursery to class 4 and when the girl was in class 4, the uncle saw that the girl was beautiful, he one night went to the girl's room, told the girl that if she doesn't play s*x with him, he will chase her from his place, leave paying fees, the girl tried to cry to uncle but uncle refused to understand. the girl accepted to leave her uncle's place and went to the streets suffering, all the time crying, being hungry,being lonely and the last OPTION she had was to go down on her knees and pray to GOD till GOD answered her prayers. a woman came driving and saw the girl praying she stopped and asked the girl to enter into the car, she took the girl and took her back to school, bought everything as like her daughter, the girl completed education,as we talk right now she has completed University and working at WORLD BANK . Even you, GOD can answer your prayers.

I prophesy to someone reading this testimony, as you share this post, you will never share tears and sorry this year!

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DEAR MEN,
You made Love to your Wife one Night and left
Her the next Morning without looking back. You
Were in search for the Greener Pasture.

You left her all alone for 9 months. Your wife got
Pregnant that night. And for the next 9 months
she was all Alone In the Cold.

She first Noticed Her Body changing,
And then the Doctor said she is Pregnant.
The News gave Her Joy but Sadness filled her
Heart as She was longing to sleep in your Arms.
She wanted You to be there when your Baby
starts Kicking inside Her Belly.
But all She got was Your Voice on the Phone.

So many times She cried.
She could not prepare her Meals.
Sometimes she will Sleep all Day with Body
Pains as the Symptoms took hold of Her and
sometimes She Will Vomit throughout the Night.
She will Wake up Weak and Exhausted.
She will force herself to Cook but after Cooking.
She won't feel like eating anymore.

All she needed was You to be by Her side.
To Make Her Smile.
To Rub Her Belly and Listen to Her when she
talks about how She is Feeling.
To take her out.
To to walk with her and keep her bed warm.

After going through the pains of Post-Mother
hood, On that Fateful day, at the Hospital, in the
Labour Room, All She could say was your Name
due to the Pains, Sufferings and Sadness She
Faced.

Suddenly something went wrong.
She died with the Baby.
You are to be Blamed !!

LESSON
My Brothers Always Take Care of your Woman
Especially when She is Pregnant.
Care and Protect our Pregnant Women for they
are in Control of the Future.

PRAYER
To All The pregnant Women out there, you will
not Die on the Day of Bountiful Joy.
You will live to Raise your Child in Happiness and
good Health.
You and your Family Members will not Die
Prematurely !!
LET US ALL TYPE **AMEN** TO CLAIM IT !!

10 CHARACTERS OF A WOMAN YOU SHOULD NEVER MARRY

1. THE LATE NIGHT TEXTER
You know, the girl who only texts you after midnight. She’s the girl who only contacts you when she wants something, or someone to talk to. You can go weeks without hearing from this person, only to rarely get a text full of smiley faces and a message that reads, “Hey! How are you?” They aren’t consistent. Don’t fall into the trap.
2. THE GOLD-DIGGER
She’s the woman who loves your wallet, bank account, and credit cards. Be sure to stay away from a woman who is only interested in material things, and how much of these things your salary can buy her.
3. THE FLIRT
This woman loves to flirt with strangers, waiters, and even your friends. The woman you should seek is one who flirts with you and only you, no matter the circumstance. That last thing you want is to be married to someone who will deliberately flirt with people in front or you, let alone behind your back.
4. THE LIAR
Don’t trust a woman who is constantly lying to you. If you continue to ignore her inconsistencies, she could eventually do something detrimental to your relationship.
5. THE FLAKE
This is the woman who calls off dates, constantly changes plans and never shows up when she promised she would. If you think this will change once you’re married, you’re wrong. A flakey woman will never put her man first.
6. THE Partier
Stay away from her. Although she may seem as a fun and outgoing, I guarantee you will be better off with someone who stays away from gatherings full of bad mistakes and regretful decisions. The lifestyle of a partier never fits well with the maturity that is needed in marriage.
7. THE QUICK TO JUDGE
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion, but I would encourage you to stay away from the woman who constantly throws judgments at others. This is a bad habit that is not only frowned upon, but it will also hinder you from finding any type of outside friendships. Let Judge Judy stay a TV show. Don’t marry her.
8. THE IMMODEST DRESSER
The last think you want to do is marry someone who puts their body on display for the rest of the world to see. Without going into too much detail, I would encourage you to marry someone who respects their body enough to keep it covered and modest.
9. THE NEGATIVE NANCY
She’s the woman who can find something negative in just about anything. And although there is nothing wrong with being a little skeptical, living life with someone who is constantly negative will definitely put a damper on your relationship. It’s not worth it.
10. THE CHEATER
I’m all for grace and second chances, but the last thing you want is to find yourself in a marriage with someone you can’t even trust. I’m a huge believer that everyone can change, but please don’t get caught up in the lie that cheating is just normal part of life. You deserve better.
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LETTER TO THE YOUTHS!

Keep your Degree and Diploma in a safe custody for future opportunity, and engage in entrepreneur skills, otherwise you will die poor.

Most of the educated people in Kenya are poor. Majority of the educated earn less than 30,000 for a salary before tax and other deductions. When the deductions are put into consideration, the net salary comes to around 25,000. The net salary then suffers from loan deductions of up to 10,000 leaving the salary at around 15,000. The landlord then demands for his 4,000 and monthly shopping takes away 8,000 leaving one with a 3,000.That is in Exclusion of bus fare. The whole salary is gone and borrowed money starts operating. The borrowed money includes short loans and salary advances.

The difference between poverty and prosperity is property. A prosperous person has property to his name while a poverty stricken person has no property to show. Using this understanding, therefore, most of the degree holders are poverty stricken, borrowing money to buy chicken and chips, pizza, and a car.

The biggest excuse for getting paid such low amounts of money and having to sit and work for another person for 30 days is THE DEGREE that one possesses and that’s all. This has made most of the degree holders very poor to poverty stricken and will die that way most likely. A degree holder does not know how to generate money unless that money is generated for the employer. A degree holder is so dependent on the salary that he can do anything to get a job but will not think of starting a business of his own to employ others.

Interesting Facts!

1. A degree holder is not prepared to sell chips but is very happy to work for hungry lion (companies).

2. A degree holder is not prepared to sell popcorn in the street but is very happy to work for Hotel outlets in the cities and towns.

3.A degree holder is not prepared to sell second hand clothes but is very happy to be employed by insurance company which the business of selling out the business and looking for customers in a scorching Sun.

4.A degree holder is not prepared to make 150,000 monthly doing his own business but is very happy to work at the till in a bank getting paid 25,000.

5.A degree holder is not prepared to start a company and grow it in two to three years but will spend three years searching for a job.

6.A degree holder is not prepared to sell food to students but will be happy to be reporting to a boss with no qualifications as Office Assistant as long as he is paid 30,000 for a salary.

7. A degree holder is so eager to get out of this country and work in another country than spend time to develop his own country.

8. A degree holder staying in a foreign land (Kenyan) is very keen to condemn Kenyans but never contributing to the development of this country.

9. A Kenyan degree holder would rather sweep the streets of London or USA than start a business to make money in her father land – others work in people’s homes doing some work (cleaners).

10. A degree holder in Kenya will watch p**n on his laptop but never sit to write a book using the same laptop to sell and make money.

11. A degree holder will blame the government for lack of jobs even after he was on government bursary for him to have his degree.

12. Kenya is blessed with young people who have master’s degree and others are doctors in different technical fields such as IT and Engineering but all of them have failed to create a cartoon character or develop a movie from the same instead very happy to buy Tom and Jerry for their children thereby promoting American and UK.

During my student life at TUK, there was a lady in our university from a very humble background who could not construct a proper English statement. She sold Coke, Fanta and Sprite at 80 each making a profit of 10 on each drink. She also sold chips at 50 making a profit of 17 on each portion. Not less than 80 students bought chips and a drank every single day. This means she makes a profit of 27 for a drink and chips and a total profit of 2,160 per day…every single day. In ten days she makes a profit of 21,600 in twenty days 43,200 and in thirty days 64,800.

The degree holder working in a bank at the till gets a salary of 45,000 every month.

Why are the degree holders poor?

Because they have decided to pride themselves in a degree and failed to think better than a man who does not have even a certificate to his name.

Degree holders spend their time liking articles on linkedIn and facebook but never have any care in the world to implement what they like. Poverty starts from the mind, a mind that just likes things but never to implement those things.

If you want to progress, keep that degree and start thinking better than someone without a degree. There's no white collar Job anywhere brother or sister.

Be prepared to get your hands dirty and work like an ox for your business. Your hard work will pay off.

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Before you give up, just remember who these guys are today;

1. Larry Madowo - Former NTV The Trend host & journalist who now works for BBC as a Business Editor for Africa

2. Dj Mo - Best Gospel Dj , Broadways Bread brand ambassador & current NTV Crossover host.

3. Juacali - Father of Genge, Motorola, Orange, Safaricom & Guinness Campaign Brand ambassador.

4. Octopizzo - Works for the British Council, United Nations & American Embassy

5. Willis Raburu - Citizen TV 10/10 host & Hot 96 Radio personality.

6. Wyre - Crowned international King of Reggae in Jamaica during the International Reggae & World Music Awards in Florida beating Chronixx & Dmajor and Sportpesa Brand Ambassador

7. Big Ted - Deputy Director of Statehouse Branding & Events.

8. Nonini - Chair of Perfomers Rights Society of Kenya (PRISK)

9. Jalang'o - Top flight comedian, Actor, Media personality & Diamond Platnumz official Kenyan MC.


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Someone asked me how to deal with stress. This is how it works for someone people 😊
Stress management is easy with these four a's.
1.AVOID: Avoid stressful situations, people or any thing that stresses you by taking control of your surrounding, avoiding people who bother you, learning to say no to demands and responsibilities that are not worth your time, and prioritize your lists in order of importance..
2.ALTER; Take inventory initiatives to deal with the stressors, try to change your changeable situations. This you can do by openly communicate your feelings, manage your time better, communicate your limits in advance and respectively ask people to change their annoying behavior..
3ACCEPT; Accept yourself and the fact that you have no control over your situations like death.. Talk to a trusted friend or counselor, forgive yourself and others fast, practice positive self talk like I AM THE BEST, or I can do this.. With a smile of cos😊...keep it objective still because one negative thought about yourself and the situation can lead to one losing focus and learn from your mistakes and even try correcting them if you can.
4.ADAPT; After avoiding, altering and accepting yourself and the situation adapt to your new situations. For you to adapt easily you have to change your standards and expectations to fit the new situation, stop gloomy thoughts, don't re-open the stressful situations or experience, reframe the issues and look it from a positive point, get to learn the positive lessons from the situations and look it from the pig picture ..create an asset column of things that stresses you and the one that makes you happy.. Concentrate mostly in the happiness column
This is it😊...dont forget to keep n smiling, you look so much better when you smile 😊😊😊.

You asked for 10k and your dad told you he will give you in the morning before he leaves for work, this is after he has thoroughly scrutinised what you needed the money for,all the questions he asked is already making you angry.
Through out the night the man couldn't sleep because he was thinking of how to give you his last 10k.
Morning came and he called you into the room to give you 9k instead of 10k and you squeezed your face in discontent and reluctantly said thank you after complaining its not complete.
Your mum after seeing this will not say anything but will meet you in your room where your dad isn't and give you 2k from her own money and say "don't mind him, use this one to complete it" smile from nowhere will enclave your face, you quickly go to facebook and whatsapp to write "i have the best mum in the world, i love my mum".
Now your dad had gone out again with just 1k in his pocket home and abroad to top up fuel or use as transport to work.
He will never let you see this because he is a MAN.
Always try to appreciate your Dad for no reason because you won't know what your life would have turned out without a fatherly figure in it..

I love my dad, first time i am doing a piece about dads...💓💓💓

Dads are priceless, try and appreciate your dad always...💝💝💝

A little food for thought...

A group of wolves: The three in front are old & sick, they walk in front to set the pace of the running group lest they get left behind. The next five are the strongest & best, they are tasked to protect the front side if there is an attack. The pack in the middle are always protected from any attack. The five behind them are also among the strongest & best; they are tasked to protect the back side if there is an attack. The last one is the LEADER. He ensures that no one is left behind. He keeps the pack unified and on the same path. He is always ready to run in any direction to protect & serves as the 'bodyguard' to the entire group. Just in case anyone wanted to know what it really means to be a leader. It's not about being out front. It means taking care of the team.

I used to complain a lot about things i had no control over. I woke up one day and decided to be positive and spend the time i was spending complaining working on things i had control over.I have never been happier.And that's my secret to a happy life

The limits that we see only exist in our minds. What we tell the mind is what we get. For instance, if you think you can' t climb a tree, you won't be able to climb a tree