The Diaries of Life #AdeInspires

– THE FORESIGHT ADVANTAGE.

Many years ago, there were two farmers who wanted to become rich but had no seeds, no advantages, no land of their own or means. They had the knowledge and passion for farming but had no means to actualize their dreams.

Not only were they poor, they also lived in a poor village and the priority of most of the villagers was to make ends meet – eat, clothe and have a decent accommodation.

Fortunately one day, the two farmers came across a stranger – a traveler whom they assisted on his journey and in return he rewarded them with enough money to buy small parcels of land each, from the village head and he also gave them a cob of fertile maize each to plant.

These two farmers were very excited, happy and grateful to this stranger and they rushed to the village head to purchase their lands and begin the cultivation.

After a planting sea*on, they both enjoyed the bountiful harvest, they both had a big basket full of maize each from the single cob they were given.

The first farmer was excited about his returns and he decided to celebrate and impress the villagers. He cooked some of the maize, ate with his family and offered also to friends, neighbours and loved ones. He, however, retained only a cob to plant in the new sea*on. Everyone loved him, appreciated him and praised his generosity, even the village head appreciated him for sending some boiled maize to the palace. He became popular and loved, he impressed his people and showed off how much wealth he’d come into.

The second farmer, however, did different with his basketful of harvest, he didn’t celebrate, cook or share, he sold half of the maize, used the proceeds to purchase more parcels of land and planted the remaining half of the harvest.

He was not interested in impressing anyone, the opinions of people didn’t matter to him, he didn’t care what people thought or said; he wasn’t even interested in the accolades from the village chief. He didn’t live to impress anyone, he didn’t let their criticism bother him, even the nagging from his wife and kids didn’t move him, his mind was on a different ambition – superior to the opinions of the villagers.

By the second sea*on, the first farmer, reaped only one basket as usual from the single cob of maize he planted again. The second farmer, on the other hand, reaped very many baskets from half of his initial basketful of maize cobs he reserved for planting instead of eating them or giving them out.

The first farmer continued to show off and give out his basketful of harvest sea*on upon sea*on, reserving only one cob of maize to plant in a new sea*on, while the second farmer kept selling half of his harvest to acquire more land and plant half of his total harvest on the land acquired, thereby increasing his farmlands and quantity of harvest.

After 10 sea*ons, the first farmer was still at the level of planting a cob of maize every sea*on, he would, as usual eat some and give out most to keep impressing and soliciting for love and accolades, he liked the attention and the thought that people saw him as rich. But the second farmer had become very wealthy with several parcels of land, thousands of basket in harvest and the capacity to easily keep acquiring land and expanding his quantity of seed sown and overall harvest.

Within 10 sea*ons, the first farmer was only as rich as a cob of maize, a parcel of land and a basket of harvest, the second farmer, on the other hand, had become very wealthy with several parcels of land, thousands of baskets in harvest and so much money from sales.

The second farmer eventually became the richest man not only in that village but the neighbouring villages too. He built the biggest house in the village, built a new palace for their chief, built a school in the village and gave out maize cobs to people who wanted to lease farmlands from him to start farming maize like him.

The second farmer consequently became the superstar in the village. Everyone wanted to associate and relate, he had become the really generous one, and the chief honoured him with a chieftaincy title, he became influential, powerful and had a say in everything concerning the village. His wife and kids become instant celebrities and were proud of him. The first farmer who from the start gave out his maize and was seen as more generous become irrelevant, forgotten and inferior. In fact, everyone looked down at him and considered him poor compared to his friend in the same maize cultivating business. Just after 10 sea*ons, time indeed separated the real from the fake.

My dear friends ladies and gentlemen, the goal of why you work is not to look rich, the goal is to be rich.

Many of us have the opportunity and privilege of paid employment, you earn your monthly salary and you eat most of it, you show of with some more and survive on what’s left until your next payday, if you live this way, I’m sorry, you may very soon emerge as very broke, busted, rejected and discarded.

It’s a pity many of us live such lives to make people assume we are rich or comfortable, not that we’re truly rich or comfortable.

We live off loans, credits, bribes, settlement, hot deals, hustle and gratification on the account of our current employment and business positions. We perhaps live beyond our means to impress and oppress others. We try so hard to make people believe we have so much when in truth we have nothing. With all the loans we currently owe, our realistic bank balance is perhaps subzero.

We are too focused on now, on today, on making fancy impressions, at the expense of a better and more comfortable tomorrow.

We have closed our eyes to the future, we keep spending on things instead of investing in ourselves so as to fit well into tomorrow. Our skills, capacity and competence is as good as when we graduated or as good as the training our employers send us for. We are not conscious, aware or interested in the dynamics of life and the new normal. We don’t bother about tomorrow hence we’ve refused to improve ourselves, acquire new relevant skills that will make us useful, valuable and well positioned for the tomorrow of robotics, artificial intelligence and mental prowess.

You’re perhaps investing little or nothing in you, you’re investing in things: Cars, clothes, jewelry, designer wears, a*o ebi, hair extensions, drinks, parties, clubs, or a house with an expensive rent so that people will hail you and see you as a big boy or girl, thinking you have money.

You can pay your bills today yes, but will you be able to pay the higher bills of tomorrow? Is your strategy for the future based on the hope that Nigeria will get better, the economy will improve and there will be free money everywhere? Better wake up and smell the coffee.

For how long have you been working, how old are you now, how much do you have now, what form of income generating venture or investment is yours and absolutely within your control to grow and increase at will?

What do you own? What wealth packages do you have, how do you intend to multiply your wealth? Can you see the future? Your future is advancing and coming at you much faster than you think, can you see it?

You want to have it easier now, you cannot kill yourself, you don’t want stress in your life, you want to enjoy your life today, you want the praises of men today, you want the admiration, the respect, the accolade, you want to pepper your so-called enemies, dear friend, how sustainable is this ambition?

When will you learn discipline – the capacity to delay gratification, endure hardship, ignore people, learn, read, develop yourself, acquire new skills, build rewarding capacities, acquire new and profitable knowledge and improve your worth in the career, trade and money making markets?

When and how do you intend to build and develop the psychological and neurological performance advantage? How will you, and when will you match what your body can do with what your mind can conceive or dream? It’s possible to have dreams and goals your physical body and soul can’t deliver unless they’re trained to deliver them, that’s why New Year resolutions fail no matter how sincere or genuine, the body simply can’t deliver what the mind desires – knowledge and desire is not capacity. – Capacity is the skills and real ability to handle intense stress till you succeed at a goal, you don’t read that from a book. Soldiers don’t win wars through study alone, they win wars by intense training and hard discipline. Are you training your mind, your neurons, your muscles for performance in the future or you think certificates and head knowledge is all you need? Look into your future, five years; ten years from today, what do you see? Who do you see? How do you see you in a few years? Your future is coming, and very fast it’s coming? Get ready today for a great future – make sure you don’t regret, do something wise and meaningful your future self will thank you for. Stop looking for who and what to blame, aren’t you tired of the blame game? Dear friend, have foresight.

GENDER INFERIORITY COMPLEX
Gentlemen, don't feel bad over the fact that a woman just by getting married to a rich man can also become an instant millionaire with all the treatment, respect and regard no matter her background. And don't be mad over the fact that according to the order of life, you are the breadwinner. Please, let them enjoy the benefits of their gender. My dear lady, you are not a man, and you can never be one, instead of competing with men at what they're naturally designed for, why not focus on becoming excellent at what you are designed for. Men have their place and purpose so do women in this life. Stop the beef, focus on your gender; the uniqueness, possibilities and power, be the best of your type stop feeling inferior.
Ladies and gentlemen, your self-concept, perception, worth and rationale will influence how you think, how you think will influence what you do, and what you do will ultimately influence your results in life. People with the best opportunities, gifts and talents in life still fail because of inferiority complex. Inferiority complex can make your life complex. Dump it friend.

– ON THIS JOURNEY.

Sometimes in life when we’re overwhelmed, you may begin to question what it is exactly we want out of life. When the pressure becomes so intense and we’re getting weary of everything we become discouraged and we just want to let go of everything. Were tempted to give up on the vision, the dreams, the plans, the ambition, the desires and everything that matters to us.
In sea*ons such as this, philosophies such as “money is not everything”, “it’s not by power nor might”, If I die today, these children will still do great in life”, “the lifespan of work far exceeds that of humans”, “I’ve done my best, I’ll leave the rest for God”, it’s not he that willeth or runneth, but God that showeth mercy” and so on and so forth.
Truth be told, when overwhelmed, these sayings become appealing and acceptable. And the truth is, though factual these sayings are but applicable within rea*onable contexts. You don’t embrace these sayings when tired, you embrace them when helpless.
Being tired is different from being helpless. When you know what to do but lack the passion, energy and courage to do it, you’re tired. But when you have the willpower, energy and courage, but based on prevailing circumstances, you can’t do anything, then these sayings can motivate and inspire you to stay strong.
My dear friend, are you tired in your pursuit of success, vision, mission, ambition and happiness? Are you daily encountering difficulties, challenges and negative surprises and already, your dreams and plan for the New Year are taking the back seat?
Are you back in your life of routine and comfort such that nothing you’re doing now is different from all you did last year?
Has it been difficult embracing that new lifestyle with the capacity to launch you into your dream life? My dear friend, it is dangerous remaining the same in an ever-changing world. If based on discouragement and fatigue, you choose to stick with the usual, the easier and the familiar, you may eventually become a victim of the changes and dynamics.
In this life your intention, desires, plans and prayers mean nothing without corresponding action. It is what you do that changes your situation not what or how you think. It is the commitment, the sacrifice, the pursuit and determination to succeed that delivers the results not the wishes, confession, declaration, and faith. Faith with no works is always dead.
See, you can’t again allow this year go by as usual with nothing significant to show for it. Perhaps you’re already slipping back into that state or inertial, believing things will just work out by itself, here’s the news flash, things won’t work until and unless you work things by yourself.
Yes it might be difficult, intense, overwhelming and appear impossible, but giving up is not an option. There is always a way out, there’s always an answer to everything, there is always something that can be done if you remain at it long enough and constantly keep working on things.
Dear friend, are you already tired this year? And the thrill, excitement and euphoria of a brand new year of new opportunities and possibilities have waned?
Perhaps you started off the year with your entire focus on fasting and praying without any planning or strategizing, so on exactly what will your prayers and fasting manifest? What is the dream, the vision, the project you want divinity to act on?
What personal habitual change are you embracing and retaining all year through? Reading, exercising, dieting or learning? What destructive habits are you giving up? Smoking, excessive drinking, excessive eating, promiscuity, crime, lies, deception, infidelity, laziness or gambling?
What are the things you’ve embraced with the possibility of pushing you up your ladder of success? What are those things weighing you down you’ve decided to lay down? Dear friend, it’s too early to be tired, perhaps you’re coming up with the same excuses that have kept you low, down and struggling year after year, maybe your fears are again getting the better side of you, perhaps you’ve allowed people different from you in perspective, ambition, calling, purpose and dream, talk you out of a greater new year with their pessimistic or conservative counsel.
Dear friend, please remind yourself again, what exactly do you want out of life this year? I mean, seriously, are you already giving up?
Come on now, you shouldn’t do that, your excuses, lamentation, and blame games won’t change your life and story for good. It may fetch you a lot of pity and many might sympathize with you, but it will never change your life for good.
It is time to arise and be the champion of your own destiny. You have the power in you, you have the ability in you, the potential is right in you, the possibility is in you, there is nothing impossible if you’re willing to believe in yourself, learn all you need to learn and do all you have to do.
Stop watching too much TV it’s time to be on TV yourself, make the news this year for good. Instead of spending hours snooping on the lives of others on social media, do something positively great and phenomenal this year that will generate millions of views the world over on social media.
Hear this my dear friend, nothing really great starts easy and likely at the beginning. It will always appear difficult and impossible, it will almost look like it will fail and it’s not worth it and you’re just wasting your time. But if you just hold on and keep keeping on, doing all you can, never giving up, the sudden break through will surely show up. You don’t break through with just a strike, you break through with several strikes at the same thing in the same place, if the first one don’t do it, strike a second and a third and the next until you break through. It’s hard to defeat somebody who never gives up.
If you’re tired ask for help from people going your way in life, not people going in other directions or people going nowhere. Look, your association is extremely powerful in fulfilling destiny. The kind of minds around your mind, the kind of intelligence around your intelligence, the kind of courage around your courage, the kind of faith around your faith, the kind of energy around your energy and the kind of people in your world will more than anything else determine your success rate and magnitude or otherwise in life.
The rea*on why the rich mostly marry the rich is not that they want to keep the poor out of their cycle, it’s because poverty or riches has nothing to do with a bank balance; it’s about a mentality.
Being rich or poor has nothing to do with resources, it’s all about a mindset and thinking pattern. Who today, are you rubbing minds with? Those blaming everything and everybody for their problems or those thinking daily on how to surmount all problems and succeed?
Dear friend, to retain the motivation and encouragement that will make you succeed this year, rub minds with people going somewhere. Stop celebrating philosophies and theories that will keep you brain lazy and full of excuses. As much as you can, find progressive people and associations and stick with them no matter what, that’s how to succeed on this journey. Best of luck

What A Husband Needs From A Wife Is Never S*x.
S*x is an important element in marriage and until there is s*xual in*******se between a husband and a wife, the marriage is not yet spiritually recognized. This shows how important s*x is in marriage.
When you look at how aggressive men are towards s*x you may think that what a man needs from a woman is s*x. Of course, if he has not married you yet or he does not really intend to marry you what he will need from you is nothing above your body. But if he really intends to marry you or if you guys are already married s*x is never what he needs from you - maybe let me say it better; "WHAT A MAN NEEDS MOST FROM A WOMAN IS NOT S*X."
Many young girls think because they are s*xually active and experience they will easily be married and have their husbands loving them. And when a man approaches for marriage they think the greatest asset they have to show the man is s*x. Others also think once they are giving out their bodies it means they are giving out the best for which rea*on they will be chosen above all.
There is this young girl who is very beautiful and s*xually active. Due to that she thought s*x is all that matters to a man. Ironically, she struggled for long before finally getting married. Her s*xual dexterity could not win her the heart of a man until out of the blue and rea*on beyond imagination a very handsome good man married her. The wedding was grand and her tears were now gone. Unfortunately only a year after the wedding the marriage fell on rocks. Within five years three different men came her way but none could stay.
The problem was simple. She thought s*x was all that matters so she would never submit. But submission is what men need, not s*x. It is time for our young ladies to know that when a man is ready to marry he will not look out for a woman who will satisfy his s*x drive but a woman who will submit herself to him. Excuse my language, "every woman has va**na but not every woman has humility." So when you are a humble woman, you are an expensive jewelry. And a man of integrity will fear to lose you.
What does the Holy Bible say, "wife, submit to your husband." The rea*on is that a man's true love goes out only for a woman who is submissive. Your beauty cannot make another woman ugly but your humility can let him love you above all other women.
Sadly, many youngs ladies in our days call submission as "control." And you will hear them saying in tiny romantic voices, "As for me I don't want any man to control me oh." If you don't want to submit don't think of marriage because no man in his right sense will offer his love to a woman whose heart is higher than his height, no matter how short he may be.
When a woman bows her knee before a man, the man will automatically bow his heart before her love. And love her sincerely.
There are, of course, recalcitrant men who will not value women of humility but I tell you that every true man does not need s*x, but submission. It is submission that truly makes you a romantic wife. So be the African queen you want to be but when it comes to dealing with your husband, play the role of a humble maid. Don't forget that it is the spirit of humility that has caused many maids to hijack their mistresses' husbands. Be your man's queen and be his maid also.
I wish you all the best as you submit in your relationship and marriage. May God bless you with good marriage, my dear sister.

– WHERE ARE THE GODS?

This episode may sound a bit abstract or farfetched but believe me I’ve checked and researched and found it to be true. I’ve read through books of history, real events that happened through different stages of civilization and from generation to generation across different tribes, races, locations and nations; this assumption believe me holds very true.

You can check through stories and myths and moral lessons, as told by many generations gone by to teach life lessons to themselves, their offspring and posterity, the pattern and plot of the stories reflect this same set-up.

Not only is this assumption supported by stories, myths, legends and historical facts, most religions believe and proclaim this same concept to be real and as truth.

Even in our world today, it is quite evident this situation is the truth. In rural, urban and extremely sophisticated nations and societies, it is the reality.

What am I referring to this morning? It’s simply the idea that there are two categories of human kind at every point in time in this world. There are the gods and the mere men. These categorization is mostly an outcome of predestination.

From my research, personal observation and experience, I believe the creator, the Almighty created all mankind, but there are some, not so many though, that are not designed or created as ordinary men. Although the almighty rules in the affairs of humanity, there are some superhumans, selected and differentiated, not by physical appearance or physical strength but by the magnitude of predestination and super spirits to drive the affairs and direction of humankind and the world at large.

All men are equal but a select few are created with superior strength of destiny and superior destiny endowments. This has nothing to do with faith or religion, it cuts across every race, tribe, religion and community. And these people are picked by the maker through grace of selection. It’s not earned.

In every generation, there are human kinds with bigger, more powerful and dominating spirits, these I call the gods on the earth; these few people actually determine what happens to the other billions of humans on earth at every point in time. These gods on the earth are commissioned through destiny to lead and administer the world, the other very many people however, are basic mere men in destiny.

Incidentally, these men, empowered through predestination – these human gods on earth have the power of choice. They can choose to function as responsible gods, or make the decision to use their superior destinies and powers destructively, hence they become villains.

The assignment and purpose of these men with superior spirits is to direct the order of mankind. They are to ensure peace, progress, advancement, promotion and continuity with human kind from generation to generation. They are to come up with super human invention that the natural mind cannot build or comprehend, but they can, only through revelation from a different realm be accessible through the might of their spirits and destiny.

These super humans pick signals from a different realm using their spirits for new concepts, ideas, creativity, inventions, information, methods and solutions, the mind of mere men can never connect with.

These super humans are highly intelligent in their areas of dominion. With basic efforts, they can see things, know things, understand things, interpret things and come up with extraordinary solutions and direction for humanity. Hence, mere men look up to them, depend on them and believe in them for solution, outcomes and direction in matters that affect them.

As a matter of fact, mere men, unconsciously develop a sense of right and entitlement, for solutions and direction from these super humans and criticize them harshly when there is a general breakdown of progress, process and direction in their communities and societies. Though born equal, mere men will naturally look up to these few super humans and hold them responsible and accountable for system and societal failures and sometimes, their personal failures.

Hence, you hear many mere men keep making reference to our leaders, anytime there is a challenge or expectations within a system be it political, religious or social structures.

When you hear everyday people say “our leaders” most times they are not referring to a particular individual, as positional leaders come and go, it’s just them making reference to the super humans in the land. To paint a clearer picture, there are some people in Nigeria today, who hold no public office position, are not appointed as anything and are not in charge of anything, they just live their lives normally yet the people still look up to them for direction, answers and solutions in times of need. Perhaps they held a position of authority in time past, there are thousands of people who have held and are still holding similar or key political positions today and are not recognized or even remembered by the mere men – the so-called masses, but these superhumans, perhaps left that office several decades ago, the masses still look up to them as leaders, these ladies and gentlemen, are super humans, with superior destinies – the gods in this world through whom the almighty administers and rules the affairs of humanity.

These super humans are not just sent to run governments of nations, they are opinion molders, prime movers and powerful influencers in different areas and aspects of humankind including politics, industry, entertainment, family life, social order, education, justice, moral standards, religion, the military, science, technology, business, healthcare, philosophy and ideology and even spiritual affairs. Because of the magnitude of their spirits, and the weight of their destinies, everyday people respond to them like gods, and that’s what they really are – gods like men.

Mere men are often angry at them, irritated by their silence and complacency in the face of threats, failure and danger, mere men insult and criticize them for failures in different areas of life, and mere men are quick to judge them and condemn them when they make mistakes, forgetting all their great deeds and achievements of the past.

These superhumans, though born like natural men, are predestined to support and lead natural men, but if by any rea*on they relinquish their superhuman capabilities and abilities, they die and end up like mere men, they cease to be recognized as gods on earth.

The fact that these superhumans have the power and ability of choice, some of them, unfortunately, choose to use their superior spirits and destinies to manipulate, destroy and frustrate mere men. Rather than build up structures that will help the mere men, they manipulate structures to favor themselves, hence frustrating and punishing the mere men within their domain. Men with super spirits that do these are corrupted human gods, and their powers are corrupted by greed, self-centeredness and pride of life.

Ladies and gentlemen, if you are a superhuman today, you know you know, I need not tell you. You can feel it, you know you’re not normal, you know you’re not ordinary. Though mere men can’t see or feel it, you know what I’m talking about. So my dear friend with that super spirit and superior destiny where are you? Would you let the corrupted gods, the villains destroy humanity? Where are you in politics, where are you in entertainment, where are you in family life, where are you in education, where are you in invention, where are you in concepts, ideologies, leadership and spiritual guidance? Where are you in your preordained place or dominion? You know you are a human god, so why are you afraid to manifest the real you? Fear, greed, insecurity, self-centeredness or laziness? You know by design nothing can hurt you, not even diabolic powers so what’s the problem? Dear super human, it’s time to arise and be the god you are, it will be a shame for you to die like an ordinary man. The masses are waiting, the mere men need your intervention, you know you’re to blame for system failures in your place of dominion, remember you will account to the almighty God of all, it’s time to arise and manifest, it’s time to take out the villains, so fight and let truth, goodwill, righteousness, progress and equity prevail, it’s your calling, your assignment, your rea*on for being here, your preordination, dear superhuman, do your job!

COMFORT AND CONVICTION.

Many people really want to do well in life. We want to do well in life because it provides us with mental, emotional and psychological health. We want all the good things of life because they make us happy. Being educated brings happiness, being employed brings happiness, being married brings happiness, birthing babies brings happiness, being rich brings happiness, good health brings happiness, owning a house of your own brings happiness and being sure you can pay all your bills and defend yourself against any financial embarrassment brings happiness, but ladies and gentlemen, the happiness all these can bring you can never be sustained by all these. Happiness derived from achievements and acquisitions are temporary and transient. Such happiness is never perpetual.

This is simply because possessions and accomplishments are neutral elements, your perception and interpretation of these things at different times determine how you feel about them, not the things in themselves. That’s why at times you’re excited about your job and at other times, you’re not, sometimes you’re excited about your marriage and other times you’re not. Your marriage and your job may not have changed, but your experience, perception and interpretation of developments while in it, interfere with your emotional disposition towards these.

I’ve seen poor people laugh out loud and I’ve seen the rich cry bitterly, I’ve seen single people celebrate their single status and I’ve seen married people weep over their marriages. I’ve seen commuters laugh at one another and tease even in the rain and I’ve seen expensive car owners frown, hiss and look frustrated in their beautiful air-conditioned cars.

Dear friend, to live your life with the sole aim of pursuing happiness through chasing wants and needs is a delusion. Happiness does not come from what you have, own or have acquired, real happiness comes from following your conviction in life. True happiness does not come from the outside, it actually bubbles up from within.

It makes me personally sad to behold a nation like Nigeria with abundance of natural resources, a nation filled with extremely energetic, intelligent and creative people, miss their wealth in life, miss direction in life and trade off our prestigious place and position of pride in the world because the majority of us don’t truly know or understand the source of true happiness.

You can go far and wide, search all you can, but you’ll eventually discover that happiness and peace in life is a product of doing what you’re designed and created to do for others in this life. You can never be happy with a takers mentality, you can never be a happy person if you’re a selfish person.

You see, everyone in this world is created with a concern, a passion, a pain or interest in and for one area of humanity or the other. There is something about mankind, there is something about our relationships, there is something about our friendships; there is something about communal living that makes us feel responsible and accountable for others hence their opinion about us matter a great deal, this makes us real and normal as humans.

Any emotionally stable person is concerned and sensitive to the opinion of others in relation to himself or herself. This is a natural pointer to the fact that we all naturally owe humanity something.

Rejection, Isolation, seclusion, incarceration and exiles are various forms of punishment that tortures your psyche as a human being. This is because you’re designed to live and interact and support humanity, now, if you feel tortured when alienated from people, it’s the proof you exist as a form of support element for humanity, you don’t just live or exist for yourself or to serve yourself alone, it’ll frustrate you. That’s why even the very rich and famous sometimes commit su***de.

No matter the number of people in and around your life, you’ll remain lonely and unhappy if you feel everyone owes you something and you owe no one nothing.

So there are many of us today who’s come some distance from where we started from, yes you now have the good job, you now hold that key position, yes, you’re now a manager, a director, an MD, a CEO, you’re now a successful business owner, yes, you’re now married, you appear to have those things you’ve ever wanted, you’re free from depression, frustration, lack, hurt and pain caused by circumstances in your past, but right now, you’re still not excited or happy in life. You, my friend, sincerely still don’t understand the purpose of what you now have.

Consequently, all the energy and sacrifice and effort made to go past your past and build your current life of accomplishments will inevitably, become instruments of oppression, intimidation, repression, subjugation and harassment of others because your current achievements didn’t bring the happiness you anticipated, so you take out your frustration on the people in and around your life.

You’d think everyone’s envies you, you think everyone is jealous, you think people want to take advantage, you think they want your downfall, you think they all don’t really like you and everyone is probably pretending and this, affects you a great deal.

Based on this thinking, you treat innocent people wrong and hurt them, they in turn take offence and start treating you badly too and in your so called achievements and accomplishments, you’re faced even, with new enemies, many troubles and many relationship crisis.

Dear friend, the lens through which you choose to see the world will go a long way in shaping your perspective in life and the authentic way to real happiness. Happiness in life is not about seeking comfort but manifesting your real humanitarian conviction.

Despite your many troubles, disappointments, betrayals, rejection and pain, despite how nasty people have treated you and loved ones hurt you to pieces, I know somewhere on your inside you’re still a kind, loving, caring and compassionate person. The pains, disappointments, betrayal and anguish of time past may have re-tuned your mind differently but I promise you, you’re naturally a kind and considerate person.

You naturally love to see people happy, satisfied and prosperous. It’s a natural human tendency. People that celebrate the pain of others do so as consolation for their own personal pains, not because they love to see other people hurt, but the thought, they’re not the only ones in pain or other people are even in worse situations, is kind of soothing for them.

Dear friend, what is that thing you know you should do for humanity? What is that desire you have for a better family, community, society and nation? What breaking news bothers, you, troubles you or depresses you? Who do you care about and what would you really want to do about them and their situation?

The decision to remain in your defined comfort zone, is the sacrifice of your authentic and perpetual happiness. You can’t be truly happy till you decide to spread happiness. Haven’t you observed the happiest moment for most people is when they throw lavish parties and many people are drinking, eating, dancing and celebrating on their account?

The more happiness you give, the more happiness you have. Your actual comfort zone is not your place of ease, rest or false security. Your real comfort zone is in the practice of your natural conviction about your role, duty and assignment in this world towards humanity.

Your effort to help the sick, your passion to protect children, your concern about troubled marriages, domestic violence and oppressed widows, your interest in singles, the youth and teenagers, your desire to see people prosper, your burden for internally displaced persons and refugees, your love to protect and provide for the poor, your care for young teenager parents and orphans, your passion for nation building and social order; dear friend, the place of attending to the pain and trouble of humanity as it touches you deeply is your true comfort zone in this world. Blessed are those who comfort others for they shall be comforted, as the God of all comfort will bring comfort into every area of their own lives as well – this is the key to perpetual happiness; your real comfort zone.

The day you’re willing to work at something to help someone who can’t repay you is the day true happiness shows up in your life. That place where you work to serve humanity and don’t bother about getting paid is your authentic comfort zone, dear friend, it’s time to shift.