09/26/2026
I really like how reframing can help people break out of long standing negative self talk, turning to give grace, acknowledging efforts and a new way of talking about yourself. Practiced by professional athletes ;)
You know that moment right after you mess something up… when the voice inside your head starts talking to you like an angry drill sergeant?
Self-compassion researcher Kristin Neff has shown why that approach tends to backfire: shame makes it harder to learn from our mistakes.
The science suggests that treating yourself like you’d treat a friend can make it easier to try again after a setback.
One simple way to start practicing more self-compassion: pick one sentence you’d say to someone you love (“Oof, that was hard. But you’re still here.”) and try saying it to yourself.
Listen to episode “Dump Your Inner Drill Sergeant” on *The Happiness Lab* wherever you get your podcasts: https://loom.ly/T814i_g
