The Wind Phone on Hole 11

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We would love to pamper you, bereaved mamas. You can be anywhere in your grief journey. If you know someone who might be interested, please share. Thank you for helping spread the word so we can spread the love and support to these beautiful mamas. Don't hesitate to reach out with any questions, etc.

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Please join us for a candlelight vigil honoring our dear Oliver. Sunday, December 7, 4:30 pm at the Wind Phone. We would love to see you.

All of the rocks have been cleaned and returned. Enjoy!

The Wind Phone got a makeover today with our beautiful community of stewards.

On this most bittersweet birthday, we miss dear Oliver more than ever.

There will be a gathering for bereaved mamas at the Wind Phone this Saturday at 10am. Please join us.

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Hello, friends. I am writing a grief memoir (!!!) and would love some input for a chapter I am thinking about. Can you please respond to the following prompt with a one- or two-word answer and leave in comments? Grief is __________. Thank you!

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I wanted to share what I wrote for Oliver's vigil last Sunday. If you are grieving, I hope that these words bring you some comfort. It was especially powerful to hear the names of departed loved ones from those gathered at the vigil. We are all united by our shared grief.
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Thank you for being here to honor our beloved Oliver. And thank you for helping us light the way during this time of profound grief.
We are surrounded by so much love and support, and this keeps us moving forward. It does take a village, and we have the very best.
You may wonder if grief gets easier after almost 3 years. My most
honest answer is, no, not really. The weight is just as heavy and each day feels like I am moving further away from one of the dearest, most essential people of my life. But we learn to create a new language around the grief—a new way of being in the grief and carrying the grief. This process is ever-evolving and is teaching us, moment to moment, how to hold Oliver close and, at the same time, to take that next step, albeit very tentatively.
What I’ve learned is that at its core grief isn’t about loss: it’s about love. It’s about finding glimmers of light, even as grief teaches us to hold life’s paradoxes. It shows us that joy and sorrow aren’t opposites: they’re threads of the same fabric.
Oliver brought light to the dark places with his curiosity, passion,
deepest dimples, his loving relationships, and his driving desire to solve problems and, in doing so, to help others. In this season of light, let us bring forward the light in others and in ourselves. As my very articulate and very wise friend Molly said to me last week, “Let others borrow our light. If someone’s light is dimmed, share your light with that person. And allow others to share their light with you.”
Tonight, in this space which is solely meant to comfort the griever, let your light be seen and shared.
I would also like to acknowledge another spirit who has joined Oliver: my dear mother, who died in May. She was the very embodiment of light, love, and deep empathy.
Please feel free to share the name (or names) of someone you have lost—recently or long ago-- and let us all bring light to that beloved person in memory and to you, beautiful griever.
We love you all.

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Please join us to honor Oliver and gather for a candlelight vigil at the Wind Phone. We would love to see you. The ritual of gathering has brought us much comfort and light during this time.
Date and time: Sunday, December 8, 4:30 PM
Location: The Wind Phone, Hole 11, The Evans at Canal Shores
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We will be gathering for a candlelight vigil in honor of Oliver, and we would love to have you join us. Please dress warmly and bring a candle.
Date and time: Sunday, December 8, 2024 at 4:30PM
Location: The Wind Phone, Hole 11, The Evans at Canal Shores