Advances In Bereavement

New Years is a good time to review ~ not just the heartaches of the previous year ~ but the blessings and silver linings we may have given short shrift.

A useful New Years resolution for grievers would be to develop one new coping strategy to help them heal. This would be a gift they can retain for a lifetime!

The privilege of supporting grievers can rest heavily on our shoulders during the holidays. May the peace of the season lighten the load so that we can reach out loving arms of support far into the future.

The last question generated so many comments that here is another: Is is okay for a counselor to accept a holiday gift from a grateful griever? There is a downside to accepting or rejecting the gift. What do you think?

Many therapists believe giving a client a hug is a boundary violation. Yet grievers often crave the reassurance of that physical contact. What is your opinion on this?

For some grievers, forgiving themselves for real of imagined shortcomings is an immense challenge. It is well to encourage them this holiday season to give themselves the gift of forgiveness.

Looking toward a brighter future is difficult for grievers. Sometimes it is enough to compliment oneself for getting through today in a healthy way.

The grievers of Sandy Hook have asked us to mark the one year anniversary of their losses tomorrow by performing an act of kindness for someone who needs it. We are honored to do so.

It takes tremendous energy for grievers to participate in holiday events in which they must deal with many people. Yet the hugs, love and connections can be healing. Choosing to attend a few may be helpful.

The compassion grief supporters feel for those they serve during the holidays is draining. Those positive self-care habits are more important than ever right now!

Grievers experience tremendous pressure during the holidays to "stuff" their feelings while others are joyful. They need safe places in which to express what they feel without fear.