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And I rest my case! Just stop being illiterate plz !!!! DONT DO IT FOR THE PARENT!!!! Do it FOR THE BEST INTEREST OF THE CHILDREN !!! Look LOOOOOOOOK AT THAT little HAND!!!!! What if it WERE YOUR CHILD????? HUH?

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HE WAS CHOKING HER IN FRONT OF HER SON — AND THE ONLY PERSON WHO STOPPED IT WAS A CHILD.

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This didn’t happen in a split second. It built over time, like so many of these cases do, with arguments, violence, and warning signs that were already there long before that day.

By the time it reached this moment, a protective order had already been filed and then dismissed, allowing him to return back into the same home where the cycle continued. Just days before, there had already been another incident involving violence toward one of the children, and nothing had stopped it.

Then it happened again.

According to investigators, he had his hands around her throat, actively choking her, trying to drag her out of the driver’s seat of a truck while their son watched it unfold in real time.

This wasn’t an argument. This wasn’t a misunderstanding.

This was a man choking a woman while a child stood there and realized exactly what was happening.

And in that moment, that child made a decision no child should ever have to make.

He ran inside the house, grabbed a rifle, came back out, and fired at his father while the choking was still happening.

The man died there.

And just like that, the violence stopped — not because the system intervened, not because help arrived in time, but because a child stepped into a situation that had already gone too far.

But the story didn’t end there.

Because when the investigation unfolded, it didn’t just focus on that moment. It went back through everything that had led up to it — the dismissed protection order, the prior incidents, the violence that had already been happening inside that home.

And now, the same woman who was being choked that day is facing criminal charges tied to what her children had been exposed to over time.

Investigators made it clear in court documents that, in their view, this situation escalated to the point where a child was forced to take a life in order to stop ongoing violence.

Sit with that.

A child didn’t just witness domestic violence.

He became the one who had to end it.

This is what happens when cycles are allowed to continue unchecked, when protection doesn’t hold, when warning signs are known but not acted on in time.

Because by the time it reached that moment, there were no good choices left.

Only survival.

And a child was the one forced to carry it out.

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One of the most important shifts a family court abuse survivor can make is this:
By: Carey Ann George | The George Method™

Stop building your entire identity around what was taken from you.

That does not mean the loss is not real. It does not mean the grief is not valid. It does not mean the injustice should be minimized. It means that if your entire sense of self becomes fused to the role of rejected parent, targeted parent, erased parent, silenced parent, or abuse victim, then your nervous system stays organized around powerlessness. And when a human being lives too long inside powerlessness, it starts to shape posture, language, physiology, energy, expectations, and presence. The pain becomes the personality. The wound becomes the identity. The courtroom steals the title, and then the trauma starts trying to steal the soul.

That is where many survivors get stuck.

They are still a parent. They are still loving. They are still worthy. But internally, they begin to radiate heartbreak, rumination, despair, panic, and emotional collapse. Not because they are weak, but because prolonged litigation abuse conditions the body to live in survival. The problem is that survival identity is not the same thing as reunion identity. A child who eventually returns does not need to come home to a parent whose entire field is built around bitterness, obsession, hypervigilance, and emotional flooding. A child needs to come home to someone solid. Someone who has done the work to become safe, steady, wise, grounded, and deeply alive again.

This waiting season has to become more than waiting.

It has to become training.

Training in self-mastery.
Training in emotional regulation.
Training in grief processing.
Training in nervous system repair.
Training in purpose.
Training in the reclamation of selfhood outside the courtroom.

Because while you are waiting for the parent role to be restored in the physical, you can step more fully into other identities that make you stronger in the meantime. You can become the person who heals the parts of themselves that were wounded long before court ever exploited them. You can become the one who learns how trauma speaks through the body and how to stop letting it drive every thought and reaction. You can become an advocate, a truth teller, a builder, a writer, a leader, a teacher, a protector of others, a force for reform, a voice for children, a model of resilience, and a living example of what it looks like to be broken open without staying broken.

This matters more than most people realize.

Children do not just reconnect to words. They reconnect to energy, consistency, regulation, and felt safety. If the identity they come home to is still centered in victimhood, they often feel pressure, guilt, emotional burden, or instability. But if the identity they come home to has become anchored, strong, clear, compassionate, emotionally mature, and genuinely transformed, the bond has room to breathe. The connection becomes magnetic rather than forced. The child feels less like they are walking into unresolved pain and more like they are returning to a safe place where love is no longer mixed with collapse.

That is not betrayal of your suffering.

That is the highest use of it.

You are not being asked to pretend everything is fine. You are being asked to let what is, be what is, without allowing it to define the totality of who you are. There is a difference between honoring grief and worshiping it. There is a difference between telling the truth about your pain and building your life around the pain as your permanent identity.

The strongest thing you can do in this season is become someone your future child will feel relieved to be with.

Not because you became perfect.
Because you became regulated.
Because you became deeper.
Because you became harder to shake.
Because you stopped making your identity about what the abuser did and started making it about who you chose to become in response.

Let the court case expose what needs to be healed.
Let the silence train your endurance.
Let the injustice sharpen your discernment.
Let the waiting build your depth.
Let the pain initiate your transformation.

So that when your child sees you again, they do not just see a parent who missed them.

They see a parent who turned devastation into wisdom.
A parent who turned grief into strength.
A parent who became the rock.
A parent whose love is no longer tangled with panic.
A parent whose presence teaches safety, stability, character, and truth.

That is how bonds are rebuilt.
That is how cycles are broken.
That is how a wounded parent becomes a living blueprint for wholeness.

Thanks everyone for the bday wish’s. To take timer to do that is pretty awesome. Most of you I don’t even know ! You find out who your true friends are real quick when tragedy strikes. I’ve busted my ass to better myself and ended up severely traumatized worse than ever in my life and it was not a result of being hit or seeing brains hit the wall . It wasn’t even a result of being a drug addicted j***y cuz anyone who REALLY knows me know that I’m past that and have been for some time now! My tragedy and trauma comes from my mission in life and sole Purpsoe I DO BELIEVE W/ everything in me ; to seek the truth ! It makes people dance. It makes em mad. It makes some crazy and it makes others retaliate and the rest dangerous. For the few of us left the TRUTH ? It’s what DRIVES US! It is what liberates us !! It SETS US FREE EVEN when it HURTS. And damn can it hurt! That’s the difference between the weak and the strong !! And for my adversaries! Here’s a song for you! TO you! From me ! ; ). sTo the ones who dare to stand in my way and stop me from exposing the deceit when it’s YOUR JOB, and for the rest of Yuns too ignorant to know the difference! The few who KNOW EXACTLY what’s going on, “You’ve saved my life!”

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