10/19/2026
💙 What If Your Child Is the One Bullying Others?
No parent wants to hear that their child may be hurting someone else. The first response matters.
Try not to lead with shame, labels, or “My child would never do that.” Start by listening, gathering the facts, and being clear that the behavior is not okay.
Ask what happened before the behavior, what your child was trying to accomplish, how the other person may have felt, and what needs to happen next. Accountability may include stopping the behavior, repairing harm when appropriate, accepting consequences, and practicing a safer response for the future.
At ECHO, our MBF Child Safety Matters and Teen Safety Matters lessons help young people recognize bullying, Spot Red Flags, Make a Move, and Talk It Up with a Safe Adult. Those same skills can help a child understand their own behavior and make a different choice.
No Blame/No Shame does not mean no accountability. It means addressing harmful behavior without defining a young person by their worst choice.
The goal is not only to stop the behavior today. It is to help the young person build the skills to respond differently tomorrow.
This PACER Talks About Bullying video offers parents practical guidance for responding when their child is showing bullying behavior. PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Center provides resources that help families, educators, and communities better understand, prevent, and respond to bullying.
🎥 Video credit: PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Center
Information adapted from MBF Prevention Education Programs and PACER’s National Bullying Prevention Center.