10/01/2026
October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month. 💜
Domestic violence is not “just a relationship problem.” It is a pattern of power and control that can include physical, emotional, sexual, financial, psychological, and technological abuse.
Anyone who has not lived through domestic violence could never fully understand the emotional trauma it leaves behind. It does not matter how much education someone has or how many survivors they know. And even if you are a survivor yourself, your experience and trauma may not look anything like the next person’s. There is no single story. There is no “right” way to survive, leave, heal, speak up, or stay silent.
Domestic violence does not only affect the person being abused. It affects the children in the home who may hear it, witness it, feel the tension, or spend every day trying to predict what version of someone will walk through the door. It affects the parents, siblings, friends, coworkers, and loved ones who may feel helpless as they watch someone they love survive.
In Kansas alone, the Kansas Coalition Against Sexual and Domestic Violence (KCSDV) reports that its member organizations provide direct services to more than 50,000 victims and survivors each year, answer over 25,000 crisis hotline calls, and provide more than 50,000 hours of crisis counseling. Those numbers are not just statistics; they are people in our communities who deserve safety, support, and to be believed.
If you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, please know there is help. Local advocacy groups can provide confidential support and help you explore your options. Our Domestic Violence Unit can help you petition for a Protection From Abuse (PFA) order, sign up for VINE notifications, connect you with advocates, and access shelter and housing resources, court advocacy, home-safety equipment, food and hygiene resources, mental-health services, and apply for Kansas Crime Victims Compensation. Leaving is not always easy, and safety planning matters, but you deserve a life that is safer than just surviving.
Stop asking survivors why they stayed. Start asking why the abuser chose to harm, control, intimidate, and terrorize someone they claimed to love.
To every survivor: What happened to you was not your fault. You are not weak. You are not alone. 💜
Parsons DV Unit: (620) 421-7060
Safehouse Crisis Center: (800) 794-9148
Delaware Tribe Family & Children Services: (918) 331-7349