10/29/2026
How can you support survivors of domestic violence?
1. Listen without judgement - Take the time to listen and let them know that you believe them. Don’t judge their choices or draw conclusions. Be sure not to criticize their abuser.
2. Validate their feelings - Remind them of all of the good things about themselves, that you think they’re strong, smart, brave, beautiful. Let them know that the abuse is not their fault, that they’re not “crazy”, and it’s normal and okay to feel upset, confused, scared, angry, sometimes all at the same time.
3. Respect their boundaries - Be patient & respect their choices. Self-empowerment and healing take time. Go at their pace, not yours. Do not pressure them to leave the relationship if they’re not ready, there may be reasons they may choose to stay. Communicate that there is help and people in the community, including you, that care about them and want to help them be safe.
4. Don't pressure yourself to be the expert - Encouragement and support are an amazing way to support them, but don’t feel the need to provide counsel or solve everything yourself. The best thing you can do is encourage them to find a support group and help to connect them with people who are trained to help survivors of domestic violence.
Support is here. Call 1.800.799.SAFE (7233), text “START” to 88788, or visit thehotline.org to speak with someone.
