10/23/2026
Quality time playing with our little ones is invaluable, but sometimes we really need a moment to ourselves.
If you're feeling touched out, or overstimulated and want to encourage your toddler to play independently so you can pause, here are 5 things that can help:
1. A 'yes space': somewhere that they can play without hearing "No, don't do that! Stop! No thank you!" every 2 minutes. Playing freely without interruption builds their confidence to play independently.
2. Open mind, clean slate: just because they are 'always clingy' doesn't mean they will be in this particular space or moment. Hang back and see how they approach play, they just might surprise you.
3. Model play: show them how to play with a particular toy, then give them room to try for themselves. Remember, the goal isn't for them to do it 'right', it is for them to feel confident that they can do it themselves.
4. Stay visible: toddlers often need to feel your presence to feel safe and comfortable, but visible doesn't have to mean super close. If they can look to you and see a smile, an acknowledgement, a thumbs up, that can sometimes be all they need.
5. If at first you don't succeed... today might not be the day for independent play. Maybe today they really need that attachment. Don't let that discourage you. Enjoy the closeness today and approach the next time with an open mind and a blank slate again. Independent play builds over time.
What are some things you find helpful to encourage independent play?